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Toxic
Churches
A toxic church exists when "doing" becomes more important than
"being."In a toxic church, service to God is viewed as keeping
church systems functioning, God's blessing is seen as bigger budgets for
bigger buildings to accommodate more people, and looking successful replaces
love as the key ingredient. In a church like this, the church building
is the place where God resides, and ministry success is measured by offerings
received and the number of seats filled.A healing church speaks of Christ
residing in people, not in buildings or programs. It encourages participants
to be real and genuine, not appearance-oriented or performance-driven.
As pastor and author Jerry Cook states, "Love means accepting people
the way they are for Jesus' sake." When churches emphasize loving,
caring, and "being;" staff associates can enjoy being part of
a healing organization. However, when they emphasize performance, appearance,
and "doing;" associates risk being abused by the organization's
wounding dynamics.
On the surface, it is impossible to know if a church functions as a healing
or wounding organization. Even internally, the situation can be masked.
This puts a prospective staff associate in a vulnerable position. It is
only through active involvement that an individual can really discern
the true nature of a church organization. If a person looking to work
for a healing church joins one that is toxic, he or she is in for a rude
awakening.
One young man's experience while interning as a staff associate illustrates
this dilemma. He had entered a church leadership program that promised
senior pastor mentoring, Bible study, and a closer walk with Jesus, but
once on the job, he discovered that his church was not the organization
it had appeared to be. Instead of being loved and cared for, he was treated
like a slave and expected to facilitate the church's promotional agenda.
To his dismay, he realized that he had become indentured to a corporate
minded leader intent on developing a growth-oriented organization. He
felt betrayed and used. He ended his internship and stopped attending
church. He explained that he loved God, but no longer viewed church as
a safe place. Given his experience, it is hard to disagree.
Obviously, not all churches are religious machines. Most ministerial organizations
genuinely desire to love God and serve people. However, toxic churches
that put organizational success above the needs of people do exist and
their numbers are growing. Staff associates who work for toxic churches
are in danger of being exploited and mistreated. While there is no way
to tell from the outside if a church is a toxic place or a place of healing,
I believe the factor that most often plays a role in making a church toxic
is when that church exchanges their spiritual paradigm for a corporate
mandate.
Corporate Mandate vs. Spiritual Paradigm
God is Spirit, and His ways are unsearchable. His blessings, although
very real, are not always tangible or even visible because by nature they
are spiritual and organic. God's blessings are not to be measured or analyzed,
they are meant to be experienced and lived. Churches that forget this
in favor of qualifying and quantifying God's blessings ultimately abandon
a "spiritual paradigm" in favor of a "corporate mandate"
that measures success in terms of ever-increasing assets.
A corporate mandate is appropriate if the goal is measurable success;
not so if the goal is to love God and serve people. This is because the
aim of a corporate mandate is, above all else, to benefit the organization.
Success for these organizations is defined in financial, material, and
numeric terms. The feelings, hopes, and needs of people are of little
consequence under this mandate. Of prime importance is making sure that
the organization survives and thrives.
A church, however, is called to embrace a spiritual paradigm, not a corporate
mandate. As disciples of Christ, we are commanded in John 13:34 and 1
John 3:23 to love fellow Christians in the same manner that Christ loves
them. Churches are called to exercise faith, trusting God to lead, guide,
and provide. They are not to measure, strategize, or lean on human understanding
(Prov. 3:5-7). When a church organization becomes preoccupied with such
things as promotion, production, and ministry image, it abandons a spiritual
paradigm.
Churches do need to be organized. Whenever people come together there
must be leadership, rules, and structure. The distinction between a healthy
church and one being run under a corporate mandate is that instead of
being served, people become slaves to a mindset that puts organizational
need above the needs of people. Embracing a corporate mandate elevates
the importance of the organization and motivates leaders to depreciate
the value of loving God and serving people. Once this occurs, the organization
takes on a self-serving mentality; meaning, whatever needs to be done
to protect the organization is legitimized and spiritualized.
There are many ways for a corporate mindset to overtake a church. For
example, it can happen when the hard work connected with a season of growth
causes the church to lose sight of its original purpose. This happened
to one church led by a pastor whom we will call Tom. He started the church
by espousing such ideals as unconditional love and acceptance. The church's
vision statement emphasized joy, community, and commitment to Christ.
The church grew because Tom was committed to these ideals. Everything
went well until the church became prosperous enough to purchase a building.
Once the building was purchased, it became Tom's obsession. Money, remodeling,
and filling seats were all he could think about. Subtly, ministry packaging
and a promotional agenda became more important than caring for people.
Today, the vision statement hangs in the foyer as only a sad reminder
of what the church used to be. The promotional agenda still operates as
a demonstration of what a church can become.
What happened to Tom and his church is not uncommon. Many churches begin
by espousing spiritual and relational goals only to end up embracing a
corporate mandate. It can happen slowly and imperceptibly, that in the
name of doing "God's work" conscience is violated, integrity
breached, or a situation manipulated. Such things happen all the time.
For example, on any given Sunday it is not uncommon for senior pastors
to garner emotional testimonies that "capitalize on the emotional
bonds that
take advantage of people's warm feelings." This is
done in the name of leading people to Christ or raising money to continue
the church's ministry.
Manipulating emotions for the purpose of scripting a desired response
is antithetical to the teachings of Christ. Nevertheless, it is often
accepted and justified as being in the best interest of the church. Leaders
who use these techniques are blind to the fact that in so doing, they
are exchanging a spiritual paradigm for a corporate mandate. For these
leaders organizational success may not be the stated goal, but it becomes
the goal by default. In this environment, the staff is especially vulnerable
because the goals of the organization are set, not by associates, but
by the leaders in the power structure.
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